The Silent Treatment: An Abuser’s Controlling Tactic
Ignoring another person is a strong communication of power and control By Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD Refusing to listen, talk or respond to a partner is sometimes called “the silent…
What is the Cycle of Abuse?
Domestic abusers repeat these four stages over and over, trapping victims By Hannah Craig and Amanda Kippert Domestic violence often follows a script that survivors know very well. Many advocates…
When an Abuser Controls the Story
Abusers lie about incidents before you have a chance to tell your side By Shelley Flannery For a host of reasons—shock, embarrassment, guilt, shame, safety—it’s difficult enough to come forward…
Kids Caught in the Crossfire
Abusers don’t just harm partners—kids are at risk of being abused, possibly killed By Stephanie Thurrott When children live in households where domestic violence occurs, they face an increased likelihood…
Believe This, Not That
If you grew up in a home with domestic violence, it’s time to unlearn these lies By DomesticShelters.org Children are like little sponges—they absorb everything around them and hold on…
When Children Experience Trauma
The after-effects of violence and stress in kids could be mistaken for ADHD By DomesticShelters.org Brian F. Martin survived a violent childhood, only the violence wasn’t aimed at him. From…
5 Facts About Children of Domestic Violence
A violent childhood isn’t just forgotten as children grow up By DomesticShelters.org Consider this: 90 percent of parents who are currently experiencing domestic violence within their relationship believe their children…
10 Risks of Domestic Abusers as Parents
Research reveals some of the risks to young children of unsupervised post-separation contact with a father figure who has abused their mother By Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD While some people…
Micromanaging Every Move: Inside a Coercive Control Relationship
Coercive Control is not about one partner simply being "bossy" or "a nag;" it's about domination. Controlling people often micromanage their partners' everyday life -- restricting their activities and planning…
My Experience With Coercive Control
Author Lisa Aronson Fontes talks about the abuse she endured and why anyone can become a victim By DomesticShelters.org In the last part of our Q&A with Lisa Aronson Fontes,…